Today I was feeling so lonely, without the "one" to share "me" with...It's not easy after 20 years of marriage and now divorced, find a "true love", somebody that you can feel a romantic connection with...you become more exigent in certain aspects because you know that a relationship is not only about "love", "external appearance" or "sex", must have "commitment", "complicity" and "friendship" to lasts "forever"(or maybe for a long term relationship). You may have clear in your mind what you really expect from a partner, that's a crucial point or you gonna find yourself lost in the middle of thousands of profiles.
I think dating online is a great opportunity to know people from "inside" to "outside". Of course the pics on profile are the first thing that will gonna caught your attention, but when you start chatting with somebody it's not only appearance what really matters anymore, you gonna know the other from "inside". Most people feel more comfortable talking about themselves without a visual contact, it's easier tell the other how you are in a deeply way...how you feel and then when the connection happens go to the next step...web cam, phone calls and know each other in person. The important thing in a online dating is have no rushing, no instant relationships so you wouldn't get hurt so easily...
I used to have a problem with guys that contact me...50% don't read my profile and I know that because I'm so specific about some details like: only Christians - do you know what ? A bunch of Agnostics, Jewish, Atheists, Muslims...
- No Hunters - ...I love fishing, hiking, HUNTING...
Not easy, right?
I had an experience that I consider important to me and I would like to share with you...
A Guy...C.B. contact me from an unusual way, no flirt message, but an email and he wrote only in SUBJECT : I like the honest in your profile...I immediately replied to him and he told me that he first read my profile then he took a look at my pics...That is so RARE and I really liked the way we started chatting. He stopped visiting the site ( I checked that!)and looking at my pics. And he only had two pics in his profile( not good ones...). He told me he want to know me "inside". We had a wonderful time together, we used to hear music while chatting, dancing in our imagination and for several times he told me: " You know me better than anyone else in this world..." and I truly believe in him, because I feel the same here...he knows "me" by inside. If you ask to my "ex" today about anything like: what's her favorite color? what's her favorite food? what's her goals ...bla, bla, bla...my "ex": ????????????? My friend: !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
COMMUNICATION is the Big key for any kind of relationship...so be honest when you are talking about you...don't lie, don't hide yourself...you are the other half of somebody out there...and he/she is looking for exactly what YOU ARE.
You may asking right know...what about the guy...C.B.? Well, he is out there still looking for his half, just like me...
God Bless You!!
